HOW TO ELIMINATE THE EMOTIONAL TRASH?

HOW TO ELIMINATE THE EMOTIONAL TRASH?

One morning, without knowing how, you wake up totally unmotivated, unwilling to do anything with the horrible feeling that you can not anymore. The idea of having to face another day is so strenuous that overwhelms you.  This feeling is quite common and almost everyone at some time or another in our lives, we have experienced since usually caused by periods of great stress in which we have accumulated a lot of "emotional garbage".

The emotional garbage builds up when we fail to get rid of resentment, anger, stress and frustration. Gradually, these states grow within us to come to occupy a huge space and a good day, you feel that you are full and you do not have the strength to face the new challenges.

Keep in mind that although the emotional garbage does not occupy a physical space, as happens with the garbage of our house, if you do not take care of purging every day the negative emotional states, end up full of dissatisfaction without energy and we will expose even suffer an emotional breakdown.

5 guidelines to eliminate emotional garbage

1. Readjust expectations.  Expectations are our greatest source of dissatisfaction. In fact, we hardly ever aware of them but often expect too much from ourselves and others. When our expectations are not met, we feel bad and this plunges us into a state of frustration that generates a lot of emotional garbage. Therefore, the first step to keep our mind clean is to reevaluate our expectations based on our current resources and, if necessary, adjust them . Contextualizing your expectations you can rethink your goals and reach your goal without much pressure.

2. Maintain a positive attitude.  Most people are aware of the importance of addressing the problems assuming a positive attitude but the truth is that almost nobody does. A good strategy is to keep a diary of positivity; ie at the end of each day, you have to write at least three positive things that have happened to you, no matter how irrelevant they may seem to you. In this way you will create the habit of seeing and give importance to the positive aspects of situations, which will energize you and give you strength to face even the worst days.

3. Be proactive.  Not enough to look within and realize all the emotional garbage that store because it will only make us feel bad, it is imperative to act. Remember that introspection without action can be very harmful because it into a vicious circle that leads to lamentation. Rather than just sit watching the emotional garbage piles up, arm yourself with courage and begins to slowly get those negative feelings that keep you feel full. For example, you can take a course in anger management, if this is your problem, or learn relaxation techniques, if your problem is anxiety. Remember that you can not remove all the emotional garbage at a stroke because you have probably been there for months or even years, but if you take one step after another, gradually,

4. Accept and let go.  Much of the emotional garbage that accumulate comes from past mistakes we have not accepted and continue to burden our present. When we fail to move on, past experiences are damaging us and, at the slightest encouragement, negative feelings associated with these are reactivated. Therefore, it is important to look back and liberate ourselves from the blame, recriminations and frustrations. In the same way we do cleaning at home, we must clean our minds. Analyzes past situations that disturb you, ask yourself if the emotions that wake you report something good , and if not, get ready to let go of those unpleasant feelings.

5. Get out of your comfort zone. Our comfort zone is that "place" where we feel comfortable and safe because we control what happens. However, for things to be different it has to be done differently. It 's not enough that you clean the emotional garbage if you continue with old habits and re-fill with resentment. Leave your comfort zone will help you see life from another perspective, it will fill you with good vibes and give you the energy you need to undertake new projects.

Source:  Rincon psychology