Do not expect anything from anyone, wait for him all about you

Sometimes we tend to put very high expectations in certain individuals. It is inevitable and a custom we practice all of us more or less common way: think your partner should support you in all that you do not disagree, expect your family solve all your problems or your friends, are there whenever you need them.

Set very high expectations in those around us, is also a means of coercion, almost a moral obligation to fulfill our desires. It is a way of vetoing their freedom, when in reality, of whom we expect everything is ourselves.

We spend much of our lives "waiting for things", waiting for certain things happen and that people turn to act according to what we think of them.However, we are not fully aware that "hope" is sometimes synonymous with "desire" and there is implicit a small manipulation.

Always it is better than the people who are part of our lives act freely and voluntarily. If they do something for us it is because they have so loved from the depths of his heart, and as such, we appreciate it , but if they do not, it 's not something to worry or obsess.

It is ourselves whom we must expect everything, you who you should be able to solve your problems without "submit" to others that obligation, you who must face your fears and do not project them onto others ....

Today let's talk about it.

The dangerous power of expectations

"Do not expect anything from anyone, wait for all of you." This statement may have seemed like something forceful. However, we are confident that you've identified in any situation in which this idea aptly describes what happened.People create expectations daily and at all times, and within these expectations, should also be seen some illusion.

• YOU CAN CREATE A VERY SPECIFIC EXPECTATIONS ABOUT YOUR PARTNER: YOU ALWAYS BE WITH YOU, WHO WILL NOT GIVE UP ANYTHING FOR YOU AND ALWAYS WILL BE HIS TOP PRIORITY. HOWEVER, THEY ARE ABOUT TO COME THE HOLIDAYS AND YOU COMMUNICATE, FOR EXAMPLE, WHO WANTS TO GO ON A TRIP WITH FRIENDS / AS. PART OF YOU CAN NOT HELP BUT SUFFER A BIG DISAPPOINTMENT, A SMALL PART OF YOUR EXPECTATIONS HAVE BEEN FRAGMENTED AND DO NOT KNOW HOW TO COPE.
• DOES THIS MEAN THAT YOUR PARTNER DOES NOT LOVE YOU? ABSOLUTELY. IT IS SIMPLY, THAT YOU YOURSELF / YOU HAD BUILT A FEW TOO IDEALISTIC SCHEMES. IN THIS CASE THE RISK HAS BEEN IN THE EXPECTATION THAT, HAD SETTLED IN ADVANCE, AND ALSO HAD PREDICTED VARIOUS FUTURE EVENTS THAT ARE NOW BEGINNING TO FAIL.

People have an almost natural tendency to anticipate events, and assumptions about others attributed through the "hope", "I wish". And disillusionment and disappointment especially when something goes wrong, appears. And you know what you sign and feeds the disappointment most of the time? Very specific expectations and hopes in which we had installed a "certainty" too high.

• NEVER TAKE ANYTHING FOR GRANTED, DISAPPOINTMENT WILL BE LESS AS LONG AS YOU AVOID THE HIGH EXPECTATIONS AND EXAGGERATED ATTACHMENTS, AND IN TURN, BE ABLE TO OFFER FREEDOM TO OTHERS. EXPECT IT ALL TO YOU, BECAUSE YOU ARE THE ARCHITECT OF YOUR OWN LIFE.

Flee certainties, you accept the unexpected

We know it costs, we know it is not easy to accept that life is changing, that whoever loves you today may no longer need you tomorrow, whoever may now supports you in an hour not think so. How to face many daily uncertainties?

Maintaining balance and being the mast of your own life, because it's you that person you should always trust first, you who must solve your own fears and fill your gaps. No moorings anyone that obligation, to have to fix your things or be the slave of your expectations for fear disappoint you at some point.

• LET ME WANTING RELEASED WITHOUT SUBMISSIONS, CAN DO THINGS FOR YOU IF YOU WISH, AND IF THEY DO NOT, NOT SANCTIONS OR YOU SINK, LET THEM BE AS THEY WANT TO BE. BE AS YOU WANT TO BE, LEARN TO ROAM THE WORLD WITH CONFIDENCE AND MATURITY, BUILDING YOUR OWN HAPPINESS WITH RESPECT FOR OTHERS. WAIT FOR HIM ALL OF YOU AND LIVE IN HARMONY WITH OTHERS.

Source:  Ashamel Lemagsa

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